I spent many hours as a high school and college student in the famous lion-guarded New York Public Library, researching term papers on the use of music in Shakespeare's plays and other less esoteric topics.
During one of many visits, I picked up a dust-covered book - the title now forgotten. Out fell a postcard photo of a blue-eyed soldier. I immediately recognized him as my grandfather Sidney (Szaje) Fink as a young man, when he served in the Jewish Legion's 39th Royal Fusiliers in Mandate Palestine, 1914-1917.
According to the card's inscription and address, he had sent the card to his sister Dora in New York City.
I had not yet developed a sense of family history, just a sense of returning that which didn't belong to me, so I replaced the card in the book and re-shelved it. Today, I realize this was misguided.
When I reached home, I told my mother who called my grandfather and told him the story. Everyone asked why I hadn't brought home the card as it clearly belonged to us. Fortunately, another relative had a duplicate photo. Perhaps this incident helped point me to genealogy.
Our Brooklyn basement held all kinds of treasures stored over the years. One rainy weekend, I looked through an interesting box or two and discovered my grandparents' ketubah (Jewish wedding contract). I ran upstairs to show my mother, then returned it to the - of course - unmarked box, as it clearly belonged to my grandparents.
By now, you probably realize that I never found it again. I wish I had it today. Who was it that said, "Youth is wasted on the young," or "Experience is something you learn after you need it" ? Was this another step along discovery road?
Perhaps the most dramatic incident concerns the 300-year-old Talalay family history brought from Mogilev, Belarus by one of the last young relatives to leave for America. I l first heard about it while tracking down older relatives who had mentioned it. Eventually, a small handful of people were located who had seen it and touched its pages in the 1950s.
The man was living in Florida and, on occasion, had shown it to visiting family, although his own daughters had never seen it. Fortunately, some relatives who had seen it were artists, and they described in detail unusual calligraphied pages, some ancient, in various languages and scripts, large pages bound in a sort of album. Each of the relatives repeated what the man had told them, "This is 300 years of our family."
When he died, the album disappeared, probably a result of someone cleaning up by just throwing everything out. Later, the younger daughter said she had never seen it. The elder daughter, who might have known something, had been in a nursing home for years and could not communicate.
My cousin Victor Talalay, who recently died in Toronto, and I had collaborated for more than a decade trying to reconstruct our family history, and we spoke frequently on our great sadness regarding this lost priceless collection. We knew we would never be able to completely reconstruct it, but during the time we worked together we obtained many archival documents, including hundreds of records from the National Historical Archives in Minsk, Belarus.
Over the years, various hidden treasures have come to light for other families in other places,. In 2002, an 1811 letter written by Thomas Jefferson to his cabinet secretary was found in a Massachusetts attic. The secretary's distant cousin had died in the home, necessitating a detailed estate inventory. Other documents, including the valuable letter, were located.
Here are some suggestions to keep in mind if you are ever in charge of clearing out the home or apartment of a deceased relative, or you are asked to help an elderly relative move to a retirement or nursing home. Checking the dusty corners of a large home or a small apartment may unearth family treasures which may otherwise be lost forever.
Remember that individuals who suffer from senility, or Alzheimer's, tend to hide things in improbable places. Those with ordinary "packrat" family members have the same searching job. People who grew up during the American Depression or were refugees or Holocaust survivors may have had the habit of hiding valuables, "just in case." Allow sufficient time to do a proper search, or you may throw out valuable family history.
*Look everywhere, behind and under things, on tops of closets and in corners.
*Look for greeting cards, photographs, family documents hidden in old books or between old tablecloths.
*Anyone who has ever changed a light switch knows there is a handy-dandy little space back there that can hold jewelry.
*All old handbags and briefcases should be searched.
*Clothing, in closets or in drawers, could contain important items hidden in pockets or linings.
*Stories abound of people hiding valuable jewelry in the linings of window curtains or long-stored coats.
*Those famous shoeboxes on bedroom closet shelves are always a place to look for photographs, currency, documents.
*Check seat cushions and pillows of furniture - those with zippers have easily accessible hiding places.
*Do look under large rugs. While the edges might have been moved for periodic cleaning, it is possible the larger rugs were not completely moved, and something is under there.
*See a large pendulum clock on the wall or a Grandfather-type floor clock? Open it and look inside, lots of space for little items.
*Check between mattresses and box springs, inside pillows.
*Look at the backs of paintings and mirrors on the walls.
*Old trunks and suitcases may have markings of previous travels or hold other family treasures.
*Always look through old books before discarding them. Hold them upside down and fan the pages. Check front and back covers for handwritten notes. Everything and anything could have been used for a bookmark.
*Religious books, such as Bibles and prayer books, could contain notes on important family happenings.
*Kitchen canisters of flour or sugar might hold interesting items.
*Check covered sugar bowls and teapots.
*Check the freezer for valuable items hidden in containers or plastic baggies inside frozen food boxes. I once put jewellery in a frozen vegetable box in the back of my freezer because I couldn't get to our safety deposit box one day. Yes, it was silly - thieves don't go through your frozen green peas, or do they? - but I couldn't just leave it around. I remembered to remove mine the next day. Your relative may have left it there years ago!
*Remove drawers from dressers and turn them over to see if documents might have been attached, or items have fallen into the bottom of furniture. Check the backs of furniture.
*In the bedroom, check jewellery box linings for things that might have been slipped inside.
*Check vases. I once knew someone who threw spare change and other items into a large vase on the table in the entry of her home.
*In these hi-tech days, and the increasing percentage of seniors with computer access, consider checking CD cases.
If and when you do find something of interest, document where you found it, how you found it and store it properly so it doesn't get lost again. If the items are documents and photographs, make working photocopies or photographic negatives, and store the originals in a safe place in acid-free, archival folders. "Safe place" here means a place where it can be located again. How many of us have put an important items in a safe place - so safe that we never found it again?
If you have suggestions to add concerning places to look, have made some surprising discoveries or have other comments, I look forward to reading them.